Why is my dad so able to push my buttons and get under my nails? Sometimes it makes me want to never submit another suggestion. I knew that when I was 14 and I did EFY, my dad thought I was too young. This is the first summer since then I would be able to go down and actually do it because I didn't have responsibilities. I knew my dad loved his time at EFY when he was 17 and 18. I figured it might be a fun experience to drive down with my brother, it would get my car there, I might get some spiritual insight, and I would have opportunities to apply for jobs during the next week. I just *suggested* it--and in turn he basically shot it down as a stupid idea because I wouldn't have enough boys to flirt with. I feel like he not only completely missed my point, but.... I guess I just feel misunderstood. Seriously, just because I'm an 18 year old Mormon girl doesn't mean my only goal in life is to get a husband.
Oh, on top of that, here is a beautiful quote I was given to read at church for a lesson:
Question 4, Quote 2
"Fatherhood is leadership, the most important kind of leadership. It has always been so; it will always be so. Father, with the assistance and counsel and encouragement of your eternal companion, you preside in the home'"
Makes me feel so inspired to go become a mother! So I can devote 9 months of my life to growing a baby inside me, give birth--permanently changing my body, have my husband spend every day at work while I teach my children, raise them, help them grow--so that he can be the most important leader and I can assist him. Oh, don't forget encourage him! You go husband, you're doing such a great job presiding!
Gag me with a spoon, please!
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Mother's Day Versus Father's Day
It kind of occurred to me today--on mother's day, leaders spend so much time trying to be politically correct and sensitive. Although we're happy to celebrate mothers, we know that we must be careful--so many women were never married through no wrong of their own, or were unable to have children. So much energy is put into emphasizing that that all women are mothers in the church, through the work they do each day. Their influence includes all the children that they interact with--and they will have children in the next life.
On the opposite side, Father's day is about just that--fathers! And from the people around me, it seems like if you're not a father, then oh well it isn't your holiday, big deal.
Is this just another societal convention basically saying that women are weak and need protection whereas men shouldn't have feelings and ought to just tough it out? I think the majority of the worrying about being sensitive to it is worrying that women will leave crying--thus this censorship, tip-toeing around a reality--it inspired by the behavior of women.
By what about the guys? Does infertility really affect men less? I know that a lot of women who deal with it feel like they're missing out on an essential part of womanhood, that they've failed their husband. Do men not share this feeling? If so, is it caused by a social expectation that women=babies and men=bachelors=freedom and happiness? I don't know--I just find the discrepant odd.
I was reading over at FMH and Reese-Dixon was talking about how since her father didn't have a good impact on her life, her father's day talk would be directed about our Heavenly Father. In her situation I think I would have focused on what fathers in general *can* do, how they, along with their wife, can jointly lead their children toward choices that will make them happy. I know that R-D is married, so I find it interesting that she didn't take that path. One commenter praised her talk on the merit that it wasn't another talk saying how awesome men are. Don't get me wrong, I think that women are just as good, just as important, as men. But when I get up there on mother's day, I'm going to go in there and talk about how amazing my mother is and what a good influence she has been on my life. Mothers in general are an inspiration. So why not fathers? Although moms are unappreciated, so are dads, sometimes.
Happy Fathers' Day to all and I hope that you can remember all that *both* of your parents have done for you!
On the opposite side, Father's day is about just that--fathers! And from the people around me, it seems like if you're not a father, then oh well it isn't your holiday, big deal.
Is this just another societal convention basically saying that women are weak and need protection whereas men shouldn't have feelings and ought to just tough it out? I think the majority of the worrying about being sensitive to it is worrying that women will leave crying--thus this censorship, tip-toeing around a reality--it inspired by the behavior of women.
By what about the guys? Does infertility really affect men less? I know that a lot of women who deal with it feel like they're missing out on an essential part of womanhood, that they've failed their husband. Do men not share this feeling? If so, is it caused by a social expectation that women=babies and men=bachelors=freedom and happiness? I don't know--I just find the discrepant odd.
I was reading over at FMH and Reese-Dixon was talking about how since her father didn't have a good impact on her life, her father's day talk would be directed about our Heavenly Father. In her situation I think I would have focused on what fathers in general *can* do, how they, along with their wife, can jointly lead their children toward choices that will make them happy. I know that R-D is married, so I find it interesting that she didn't take that path. One commenter praised her talk on the merit that it wasn't another talk saying how awesome men are. Don't get me wrong, I think that women are just as good, just as important, as men. But when I get up there on mother's day, I'm going to go in there and talk about how amazing my mother is and what a good influence she has been on my life. Mothers in general are an inspiration. So why not fathers? Although moms are unappreciated, so are dads, sometimes.
Happy Fathers' Day to all and I hope that you can remember all that *both* of your parents have done for you!
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